Many women are convinced that all men in bed “need the same thing”. We asked an expert: is it really so?
Our expert – Evgeny Alexandrovich Kulgavchuk, a practicing sexologist, President of the “Professional Association of Sexologists” – tells us about the sexual needs of men of different age categories.
Peak of sexual attraction: 20 – 30 years old
Men at this age are not particularly choosy and actively change partners, quantity replaces quality. This is a time of experimentation, novelty, gaining experience and strengthening the self-esteem of men. To “hook” a young man, as much as possible to pay more attention to spontaneity, mystery, learn to surprise!
And on this erotic background – do not forget to praise. For everything. For flowers, for tender or passionate sex. Admire the broad shoulders or smart eyes. Men need praise and compliments as much as women.
It’s “picky” time: 30-45 years
During this period, sex itself ceases to be the No. 1 topic. The unity of life goals and priorities come to the fore. Intellectual potential and the ability to wear not only a short skirt, but also an elegant business suit are valued.
It is important to become not only attractive, but also soulful. Try to become a friend for a man. Not to remake him and re-educate him, but to understand and accept. At this time, usually a man already understands what he wants from life and from a woman. It is only necessary to hear and give him what he needs. Only without suffering and manipulation.
I usually recommend trying to love what he likes. At this stage in bed, there is already a certain developed taste, so that the woman can pick up the “keys” to sensuality, which “start” the “erotic motor” of the partner.
After 45 – when sexual activity begins to decline
Here it is necessary to create the most favorable conditions for sexual life. That no one distracted, there was time to anticipate, to tune in, to seclude, to “switch”. It is necessary to try to maintain the general health of the man at the level, because with ailments sexual function loses its relevance. There should not be long breaks in sexual life, otherwise sometimes there is an irreversible “conservation”. In sexology there is a concept of “widower’s syndrome”. The name explains everything. At first it is not up to it, and then you do not want to, because the changes have already occurred at the hormonal level. Of course, from a week’s abstinence nothing terrible will happen, but if we are talking about months and years, expect problems. In neglected cases, it can even be difficult to help. Therefore, the main motto of this time is regularity on favorable ground.
After 45, the sexual function in a man begins to fade. Not all of them are psychologically ready to accept the normative decline in sexuality. A gray hair in the beard is a black eye. Many have heard this proverb. Its root is psychological. It is important to create the right associations in the partner. After all, some men who want to be “forever young”, feel judgment and yanking from their halves. Over time, the spouse begins to associate with the sunset. Let it not be a sunset, but a second breath. A new stage in life, when you can afford to travel, new sensations, quality of life. Give your hero a chance to be a hero. Do not turn into a scolding or depressed mom. Be able to enjoy life. Thus you will make more happy yourself, him, and your union.
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